It’s amazing. It’s amazing that you can look at each other and not say anything. Not even a ‘hey’. Empty eye contact. Every time you look at that person you see all of the memories and the way things used to be. Now, I am not talking about an ex-boyfriend, but someone I mutually cared about. Now I feel nothing. The only thing that goes through my mind when I see him is ‘why do we have to ignore each other?’ ‘What’s going through his mind?’ We make eye contact like passing strangers who have nothing to say to each other. How did it even get like this? There was no argument. No ‘I’m just not that into you’ conversation. Just distance…which doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder. I suppose that I let it happen. I let him get the idea in his head that I wasn’t that into him by distancing myself. I did it because I knew it would be best for me, not because I didn’t like him. I believe that it is a true sign of strength and self-respect when you can walk away from something or someone you care about because it will be better for you in the long run. It was a difficult time in my life because I didn’t know what to do. At that time, no one had ever made it obvious to me that they liked me and I was craving that kind of attention. It frustrated me that after knowing each other for a whole year, flirting like crazy, that he never once told me he liked me. There was no communication about ‘us,’ just joking around and flirting. It was immature and I knew that the lack of communication would bite me hard someday. It was destined to fall apart if it ever fell together.
Today I just think it was because there was enough uncertainty in his mind and in his life that the timing wasn’t right. I am happy that I let it slip away because now I have my priorities in line and he can continue to flirt with other girls as he’s always done. But at the same time, it’s too bad there was never any conversation about it. As the quote goes, “The hardest goodbyes are the ones that are never said and never explained.” I don’t think he knows what he wants and that’s why he got into a relationship so quickly after he seemed to catch on that I was no longer interested. It lasted a week. It only helped prove the point I was trying to make to myself to keep me from wanting him- that he’s not ready for a relationship, he just wants one.
I can honestly say that I have no feelings for him or anybody at this time in my life. It is actually very freeing. I now have the chance to take a breath, take a break, and live my life the way I want to. I don’t have to like anyone or be in a relationship right now. I’m young and there is (hopefully) a long life ahead of me. My dad always say that I need to focus on myself and my future right now because (he promises) there will be time for that down the road. My mom tells me that there is no doubt in her mind that I will find an amazing man and when I’m down about it my friends bring me encouragement, too. I am blessed with the people I have in life that care about me and I need to do a better job of caring for them.
It’s just interesting to me how time changes things. A year ago I thought for sure that guy and I would be together, and now, exactly one year later, we don’t talk anymore. It’s too bad that people can leave just as fast as they entered, but at the same time that can be a big blessing. That also means that people can come into my life quickly and unexpectedly and that I cannot know what tomorrow may bring. It’s exciting but it requires a lot of patience to try to live in the present.
These are just a bunch of thoughts I’m typing, but isn’t it funny…that although you never thought it would end up this way…that you can pass by each other like strangers…?
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